The surgery went well. Very well, in fact.
Yesterday was a long day, full of me asking for favours - only to have to call back and cancel them due to the whole fabric of the day changing moment to moment.
The day started out at as a normal Monday, with preschool and home stuff to be done ... then, at 11:30am I took my hubby to the hospital. He was told he may be bumped, but hopefully not. I came home for an appointment at 1:30pm and received my last text from my hubby at 2:30 saying, "I still don't know if I'm getting the surgery."
At 3:30, I decided to call the hospital and was told he was currently in surgery. WHOO HOO!!
I arrived at the hospital at 4:30pm, wanting to ensure I was there when he got out. Well - let's just say that I arrived in plenty of time *smile*. The first time I was able to see him was just after 8pm ... and I was told that the nurses had no information on the surgery itself. I was advised to go fill out my hubby's prescriptions while he was "coming to".
So, off I went ... and as I wandered around the Shoppers Drug Mart, I realized that I hadn't had dinner ... so I chose a healthy bag of winegums *GRIN*. I was diligently making calls to family and friends, trying to arrange for help at my home - I knew I couldn't get my hubby into the house on my own in his current state.
Back to the hospital I went, and my brother arrived shortly after - he was there to help me get my hubby safely into the van and our home ... then we were told that he may not be discharged after all. But there were no beds, so we wouldn't know for a couple of hours.
I was running out of steam, and was thankful for the crackers and ginger ale given by the nurses *smile*. They really were great to us ...
Long and the short - after about 20 minutes, my hubby was taken back to the recovery room (where we weren't allowed to go), and was to wait for a bed ... but he would definitely be staying the night.
I was relieved, because it had been such a long day, and I knew my boys would be up early in the morning - and I didn't know if I would have to attend to my hubby throughout the night. So - I went home, straight to bed at 10:30pm and now I'm getting ready to go back.
They won't discharge him until he can walk on crutches, and I have them at home. I'm to be at the hospital at 10am so the physio can teach him how to use the stairs and such ...
All in all - it was a long, but very positive day. Not a wasted moment *smile*. And the surgery went very, very well ... the surgeon was very pleased with his work *smile*.
A MASSIVE thank you to you all (or your hubbies) who were able to help out yesterday and during these past few weeks. Thank you to those of you who picked up my boys, or had them at your house for a visit ... thank you to those who called and checked up on my hubby throughout the day and kept him company through text messages ... and again, to those who were unable - we so understand, and are thankful for all of your friendships.
Here's to a sunny day ... in the rain *smile*.
31 March 2009
29 March 2009
[talk: Hubby's Update]
This seems to be the most effective way to reach my community - so I thought I'd use my blog to continue giving updates on my hubby.
As of right now, we're planning to go sometime tomorrow for his surgery. He called the hospital today, and found out that they have no record of him because he's being "tagged" on to the end of the day. We've been told to be prepared that he may not get in tomorrow.
So, I'm trying to plan the day to be as flexible as we can.
If the surgery does not happen tomorrow, I'm not sure when it's planning to be rescheduled. I guess we'll get there when we get there. Our biggest concern is the fact that it will have been 3weeks on Tuesday since his injury. We have been warned that any delay after 3 weeks can cause complications and a more invasive surgery. We've also been warned that they could "open him up and not be able to do anything." Um. Ok.
So then - I don't know what that would mean ... we're assuming it means the grave diagnosis that he got on Thursday being, "If you don't have the surgery you'll never be able to play sports again ... but you'll be able to walk." And for those of you who know my hubby, that's just not good enough. So, of course, we're praying that this surgery happens asap.
ALL in all ... we're doing alright. I've had more worries regarding my pregnancy, have been advised not to do anything and to not stress *grin*. Great advice!! I'm trying to take it - but when the 2 year old screams and needs to be picked up, or taken out of the car seat, or I need that bowl in the top cupboard ... I have to do it myself. The GOOD thing, is that I was told that spotting in the 2nd trimester is not nearly as detrimental as in the 1st trimester. And that it usually means something's up with the placement of the placenta ... and that'll all be picked up on my ultrasound in a couple of weeks.
So there you have it ...
I took our eldest to church with me this morning ... it was such a wonderful place to be. I love my church, our church family. I looked around and saw multiple faces who have been walking this with us ... so many friends, old and new, showing up to our home to visit with us or bring us something to eat. So many emails and hugs ... so to all of you - THANK YOU.
And to those of you who's own life is a mixmash of craziness - I know what you're feeling. You just be "released" from thinking, "oh - I was going to call ..." or whatever *smile*. Or not *laughing*. I know our circle surrounds us - and not everyone can be there all the time. It's all good.
For tomorrow, I appreciate your prayers. Pray that he DOES have surgery, that it goes well ... that life can reboot for us. If any of your hubbies are in relationship with my own, I know he'd love a phonecall or chat ... he's so social and is dying of boredom on the couch *smile*.
Thank you to you all ... and here's to a sunshiny tomorrow!
As of right now, we're planning to go sometime tomorrow for his surgery. He called the hospital today, and found out that they have no record of him because he's being "tagged" on to the end of the day. We've been told to be prepared that he may not get in tomorrow.
So, I'm trying to plan the day to be as flexible as we can.
If the surgery does not happen tomorrow, I'm not sure when it's planning to be rescheduled. I guess we'll get there when we get there. Our biggest concern is the fact that it will have been 3weeks on Tuesday since his injury. We have been warned that any delay after 3 weeks can cause complications and a more invasive surgery. We've also been warned that they could "open him up and not be able to do anything." Um. Ok.
So then - I don't know what that would mean ... we're assuming it means the grave diagnosis that he got on Thursday being, "If you don't have the surgery you'll never be able to play sports again ... but you'll be able to walk." And for those of you who know my hubby, that's just not good enough. So, of course, we're praying that this surgery happens asap.
ALL in all ... we're doing alright. I've had more worries regarding my pregnancy, have been advised not to do anything and to not stress *grin*. Great advice!! I'm trying to take it - but when the 2 year old screams and needs to be picked up, or taken out of the car seat, or I need that bowl in the top cupboard ... I have to do it myself. The GOOD thing, is that I was told that spotting in the 2nd trimester is not nearly as detrimental as in the 1st trimester. And that it usually means something's up with the placement of the placenta ... and that'll all be picked up on my ultrasound in a couple of weeks.
So there you have it ...
I took our eldest to church with me this morning ... it was such a wonderful place to be. I love my church, our church family. I looked around and saw multiple faces who have been walking this with us ... so many friends, old and new, showing up to our home to visit with us or bring us something to eat. So many emails and hugs ... so to all of you - THANK YOU.
And to those of you who's own life is a mixmash of craziness - I know what you're feeling. You just be "released" from thinking, "oh - I was going to call ..." or whatever *smile*. Or not *laughing*. I know our circle surrounds us - and not everyone can be there all the time. It's all good.
For tomorrow, I appreciate your prayers. Pray that he DOES have surgery, that it goes well ... that life can reboot for us. If any of your hubbies are in relationship with my own, I know he'd love a phonecall or chat ... he's so social and is dying of boredom on the couch *smile*.
Thank you to you all ... and here's to a sunshiny tomorrow!
26 March 2009
[talk: For PETE'S Sake ...]
Ok ... so, it's been a few days. Quite honestly, I've avoided blogging ... haven't had time, 'been too overwhelmed with stuff. Blogging was at the bottom of the list ...
I remember reading a friend's blog a number of months ago, and she explained with her blogging world that she doesn't share everything. And I'm sure that most would expect that, but I thought that I would reiterate the same thing ... I don't share everything *smile*.
Some emotions, some circumstances, some outcomes - they're my own, or my family's ... and I know that you know that ... but thought I should maybe just say it out loud. I may leave out personal details or such - which may or may not affect your thoughts on the matter ... but just know that some things ... well, are mine *smile*.
This week has been full of "icks" ... we had a very real scare about losing my current pregnancy, which was a day full of tears and angst. But I am thrilled to say 2 days later that all is well, and I haven't had any symptoms since Tuesday's episode. I was fortunate to have had a doctor's appointment scheduled already for Tuesday, and my doctor was so reassuring and patient with finding the baby's heartbeat. He found it - after what seemed forever - which brought me and my friend to deep tears. I was so grateful to not be alone ... my hubby couldn't come - he was trapped on the couch. Still.
Which leads to today - another day spent at the hospital and finding out that he DOES need to have surgery. The specialist today was MIGHTY ticked that the last doctor didn't order surgery when he saw last week's xrays ... in FACT, today's specialist said that surgery should have happened IMMEDIATELY after my hubby's accident. The break in his leg was one comparable to a break that happens in a really bad car accident.
The pain that my hubby is in, is the same as the moment he broke it. That has been SO frustrating - as every morning I come downstairs and ask, "So - how's it this morning?" And every single day, for the last 16 days, it's been, "It's an 8 out of 10." Sixteen days??? Are you kidding me??
The doctor today said that my hubby SHOULD be in massive pain due to the type of break he has. That the pain would not have subsided at ALL since the accident. And so - the long and the short of it - is my hubby will be going in for surgery on Monday and staying overnight for assessment following.
We're taking this as good news, as the recovery time is actually shorter than if he just kept with the full cast. He will be in a short cast (to the knee) for 4 weeks (starting Tuesday) ... then assessed for whether he can have an aircast after completing those 4 weeks. On Monday, he will have a metal plate and screws put in. As of today, his leg has not healed at all, which is what is causing the pain. The bones are not lined up, as originally thought, and will not function normally if left to heal on their own.
The specialist said that if he did not have the surgery, he would never be able to play sports again. He wouldn't be able to jump on the trampoline, play street hockey, wrestle with the boys. He would only be able to walk. So - it was a no-brainer. Surgery it is.
I guess the only frustrating thing at this point, is that the last 2 weeks have been a bit of a waste. We'll be starting over on Monday, but - I guess we haven't really moved forward, more like standing still. So, no time lost? Hmmm. Guess so.
And after my own situation with this pregnancy, I was told by my doctor to not do "anything more than necessary for the next 2 weeks." ... which makes things a little tricky. We have a lovely girl helping out for the next couple of weeks - but it is SO frustrating not being able to do what I normally do, to not have what my husband normally does.
And tonight, Mattias let his little emotions show. He laid on top of my hubby and sobbed and sobbed ... then I took him to bed, where I held him for a good 20 minutes. It's been hard for him to watch his Papa be in so much pain, to not be able to play with him ... and with the baby scare and the tears that I had ... he knows that his little world is a bit crazy right now. So I just held him - and cherished the fact that he loves us so much that he hurts when we do.
So - for now - we wait.
"Be still and know that I am God." Ok God. We're being still ...
I remember reading a friend's blog a number of months ago, and she explained with her blogging world that she doesn't share everything. And I'm sure that most would expect that, but I thought that I would reiterate the same thing ... I don't share everything *smile*.
Some emotions, some circumstances, some outcomes - they're my own, or my family's ... and I know that you know that ... but thought I should maybe just say it out loud. I may leave out personal details or such - which may or may not affect your thoughts on the matter ... but just know that some things ... well, are mine *smile*.
This week has been full of "icks" ... we had a very real scare about losing my current pregnancy, which was a day full of tears and angst. But I am thrilled to say 2 days later that all is well, and I haven't had any symptoms since Tuesday's episode. I was fortunate to have had a doctor's appointment scheduled already for Tuesday, and my doctor was so reassuring and patient with finding the baby's heartbeat. He found it - after what seemed forever - which brought me and my friend to deep tears. I was so grateful to not be alone ... my hubby couldn't come - he was trapped on the couch. Still.
Which leads to today - another day spent at the hospital and finding out that he DOES need to have surgery. The specialist today was MIGHTY ticked that the last doctor didn't order surgery when he saw last week's xrays ... in FACT, today's specialist said that surgery should have happened IMMEDIATELY after my hubby's accident. The break in his leg was one comparable to a break that happens in a really bad car accident.
The pain that my hubby is in, is the same as the moment he broke it. That has been SO frustrating - as every morning I come downstairs and ask, "So - how's it this morning?" And every single day, for the last 16 days, it's been, "It's an 8 out of 10." Sixteen days??? Are you kidding me??
The doctor today said that my hubby SHOULD be in massive pain due to the type of break he has. That the pain would not have subsided at ALL since the accident. And so - the long and the short of it - is my hubby will be going in for surgery on Monday and staying overnight for assessment following.
We're taking this as good news, as the recovery time is actually shorter than if he just kept with the full cast. He will be in a short cast (to the knee) for 4 weeks (starting Tuesday) ... then assessed for whether he can have an aircast after completing those 4 weeks. On Monday, he will have a metal plate and screws put in. As of today, his leg has not healed at all, which is what is causing the pain. The bones are not lined up, as originally thought, and will not function normally if left to heal on their own.
The specialist said that if he did not have the surgery, he would never be able to play sports again. He wouldn't be able to jump on the trampoline, play street hockey, wrestle with the boys. He would only be able to walk. So - it was a no-brainer. Surgery it is.
I guess the only frustrating thing at this point, is that the last 2 weeks have been a bit of a waste. We'll be starting over on Monday, but - I guess we haven't really moved forward, more like standing still. So, no time lost? Hmmm. Guess so.
And after my own situation with this pregnancy, I was told by my doctor to not do "anything more than necessary for the next 2 weeks." ... which makes things a little tricky. We have a lovely girl helping out for the next couple of weeks - but it is SO frustrating not being able to do what I normally do, to not have what my husband normally does.
And tonight, Mattias let his little emotions show. He laid on top of my hubby and sobbed and sobbed ... then I took him to bed, where I held him for a good 20 minutes. It's been hard for him to watch his Papa be in so much pain, to not be able to play with him ... and with the baby scare and the tears that I had ... he knows that his little world is a bit crazy right now. So I just held him - and cherished the fact that he loves us so much that he hurts when we do.
So - for now - we wait.
"Be still and know that I am God." Ok God. We're being still ...
20 March 2009
[digiscrap: Some Pages and A Little More ...]
Hello beautiful blogworld ...
Today is a dreary looking day, and a day that we've decided to stay in our pj's - maybe have pancakes for supper tonight *smile*. I love breakfast for dinner ...
Our home is doing well - my hubby's spirits are lifted, it seems. And although the pain is still great, I think the words of the doctor yesterday have really helped. His leg is setting - it's all going to be ok in time ...
Our Help has left for a couple of days, and things are still feeling less chaotic. I think I really just needed those few days to get on top of the things that had gotten out of control. I'm feeling more like myself ... I am so grateful.
It was lovingly brought to my attention that perhaps those who don't know me, may misinterpret my heavy week, and see my attitude as ungrateful for all that I have. *smile*. I appreciated these words, as it gives me an opportunity to maybe be a little more transparent and make sure that my heart isn't misunderstood.
I am 16 weeks pregnant. And for those who know the journey I've walked with Shalom, these next few weeks are very, very scary for me. I have an ultrasound scheduled for 2 weeks, and it has been heavy on my heart. That, plus the massive amounts of hormones surging through my body *smile* ... and the stress of not having a help-mate at all ... I felt that my blog was somewhere that I could vent. My home was chaos, and I don't do well with that ... so when help came, so did my sanity. And honestly, asking for help was a big step for me ... I like to do it all on my own. And I was so worried about miscarrying last week - heck, I am all the time - ... I was having to move large furniture for my hubby and his wheelchair, helping him up and down with his 40lb cast, being the sole parent for 2 kids for 12hours in the day, and having the wee one up during the night - probably due to the trauma of his papa's injury ... I just couldn't do it.
I want you to know, that I am sorry if I have sounded ungrateful or selfish. Sometimes, my blog is just for me, you know? I don't always think about YOU *sorry* ... it's a place where I can sort my thoughts and such ... so, if my attitude has bothered or offended you - I am sorry. Truly. But I also want you to know that all that I've written, all that I've felt, has been real for me. For the moment ... and perhaps later on I will look back and say, "What a wacko." Very possible.
So ... enough of that *smile*. For today, some digipages I completed a LONG time ago. And now I'm working on a new project that I had hoped to complete at the beginning of the year - a digital renovation of my mom's baby/scrap book. There's a bunch of scanning to do *smile*, but I'm looking forward to another creative outlet ...
OH! And I FINALLY uploaded my Cruise digipages to Costco. It's all done ... all 28 double-paged layouts ... can't WAIT to put it in a book!!
To you, I wish you a day full of wonderful things.
19 March 2009
[talk: The Visit to the Hospital]
Today was the "x-ray" day at the hospital for my hubby. We went, praying that the pictures would show that his leg is healing and that he won't need surgery. The bones needed to overlap slightly and be straight ... and they are.
He won't need surgery!!
He's still in a ton of pain, and the doctor warned about the pain medication he was on ... the doctor suggested Advil in larger doses rather than the prescribed pain medication. I don't think my hubby was too happy about that, because the pain meds work really well - but he's very aware of the addictive nature of the drug, so he only takes the pain meds at night so he can sleep. The doctor said that was ok ... taking 2 a day is not going to be a problem.
And our help? SO great ... because of her, we were able to go to our appointment today without having to worry about what we were going to do with the kids. And next week there are dentist appointments and doctor appointments - it's so fantastic to not have to schedule around naps and such.
She's living with us for 4-6 weeks. She's cleaned out my pantry without my help (what a luxury!!). The laundry is done, I get to play with the boys AND the best thing I love right now is making fantastic meals b/c the boys are occupied while I'm cooking those last 30 minutes. Usually, my hubby does this - but since he got hurt, our meals have gone down the tube due to me losing my mind with the chaos in the kitchen.
We're talking about looking into an Agency for the future ... with Mattias starting kindergarten at a school that's 15 minutes away - it may be really helpful to have someone at our house so I can leave the sleeping baby ... or pick up groceries or do the banking, or whatever. I'm thinking that from August through March would be best ... I'm not sure how long the commitment has to be ...
But one thing, is trying to find things for the "help" to do, yet still do things myself. And teaching the boys to do things themselves. For instance ... I'm not going to stop making my bed *smile*. That would be lazy of me ... and the boys have to put their plates up to the sink when they're done their meals. I don't want to teach them to just get up from the table and someone else will do it for them.
So - for me - these few weeks of help are about having a bit of breathing room, not having everything done for me. And getting some of the "extras" finished. In fact, she and I are going to be starting to get the baby's room organized, as it's a hodgepodge of a room right now ... how great is that?
Can you tell that I'm doing much better? And for dinner tonight? Fillet Mignon with mushroom cream sauce, boiled new potatoes, steamed cauliflower with grated white Cheddar and salad. For dessert, we're having cubed kiwi fruit and sliced strawberries with whipped cream.
"Ahhhh" ... feeling good.
He won't need surgery!!
He's still in a ton of pain, and the doctor warned about the pain medication he was on ... the doctor suggested Advil in larger doses rather than the prescribed pain medication. I don't think my hubby was too happy about that, because the pain meds work really well - but he's very aware of the addictive nature of the drug, so he only takes the pain meds at night so he can sleep. The doctor said that was ok ... taking 2 a day is not going to be a problem.
And our help? SO great ... because of her, we were able to go to our appointment today without having to worry about what we were going to do with the kids. And next week there are dentist appointments and doctor appointments - it's so fantastic to not have to schedule around naps and such.
She's living with us for 4-6 weeks. She's cleaned out my pantry without my help (what a luxury!!). The laundry is done, I get to play with the boys AND the best thing I love right now is making fantastic meals b/c the boys are occupied while I'm cooking those last 30 minutes. Usually, my hubby does this - but since he got hurt, our meals have gone down the tube due to me losing my mind with the chaos in the kitchen.
We're talking about looking into an Agency for the future ... with Mattias starting kindergarten at a school that's 15 minutes away - it may be really helpful to have someone at our house so I can leave the sleeping baby ... or pick up groceries or do the banking, or whatever. I'm thinking that from August through March would be best ... I'm not sure how long the commitment has to be ...
But one thing, is trying to find things for the "help" to do, yet still do things myself. And teaching the boys to do things themselves. For instance ... I'm not going to stop making my bed *smile*. That would be lazy of me ... and the boys have to put their plates up to the sink when they're done their meals. I don't want to teach them to just get up from the table and someone else will do it for them.
So - for me - these few weeks of help are about having a bit of breathing room, not having everything done for me. And getting some of the "extras" finished. In fact, she and I are going to be starting to get the baby's room organized, as it's a hodgepodge of a room right now ... how great is that?
Can you tell that I'm doing much better? And for dinner tonight? Fillet Mignon with mushroom cream sauce, boiled new potatoes, steamed cauliflower with grated white Cheddar and salad. For dessert, we're having cubed kiwi fruit and sliced strawberries with whipped cream.
"Ahhhh" ... feeling good.
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